Most adult games are terrible: printed dice with vague instructions, card decks written by someone who has never had sex, and board games that take longer to explain than to abandon. The formats that actually work are simpler and mostly free.
Why games work at all
They remove decision-making. In a long relationship the barrier is rarely desire and frequently the small negotiation of who initiates and what happens. A game makes those decisions for you, which is the entire mechanism.
They also give permission to suggest things indirectly, which for a lot of people is considerably easier than asking.
Formats that work
- The list. Both people separately write things they want to try. Compare. Anything on both lists happens. This is the most effective and it costs nothing.
- Twenty minutes each. One person is in charge for twenty minutes, then swap. Timer on. No negotiation during your turn.
- Yes, no, maybe. A list of activities, both people mark each. The maybes are the interesting column. Our negotiation guide is effectively this in structured form.
- Remote roulette. One person holds the control of a wearable toy for an evening out. The game is not knowing when.
- Strip anything. Any existing game, with stakes. Cards, chess, a video game. Works because the game is already good.
What makes them work
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Versa Bullet and FemmeFunn Unda are remote controlled, which is the mechanism behind most of the good games here. We-Vibe Pivot works at any distance. Sliquid H2O, FFIX and a cock ring round it out. Nothing exotic, because the structure is the game rather than the equipment.
What to avoid
Anything with a losing condition attached to a person rather than a round. Anything requiring alcohol to be tolerable. And anything where one person clearly wrote the rules to get a specific outcome, which everyone notices.
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